He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD
Proverbs 18:22
To have a good wife or husband is what everyone is praying for, and to have it one need the favor of Lord. If man is rich does not make him good husband and a poor man does not make to be bad husband. Likewise beautiful lady is not the evidence of good wife and hugely lady does not make her bad wife.
People says first impression last longer, in marriage a bad husband can impressed you to get what he want, I was told about a man discieved a woman to extend that he followed the woman to church pretend to be converted after their marriage he enforce the woman to change back to Muslim after two kids.
Anybody that marry good husband/wife abtains the favour of the Lord. That is the reason we don’t need to rush into it. Do not base your affection on physical or material things let base on genuine love, that doesn’t depends beautiful.
What you need to do when search for helpmate
1. Prayer: But thou shalt go unto my country, and to my kindred, and take a wife unto my son Isaac. And I will make thee swear by the LORD, the God of heaven, and the God of the earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell… And he said O LORD God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and shew kindness unto my master Abraham. Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water: And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master. And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold, Rebekah came out, who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham's brother, with her pitcher upon her shoulder. And the damsel was very fair to look upon, a virgin, neither had any man known her: and she went down to the well, and filled her pitcher, and came up. And she said, Drink, my lord: and she hasted, and let down her pitcher upon her hand, and gave him drink. And the servant ran to meet her, and said, Let me, I pray thee, drink a little water of thy pitcher. Genesis 24:3-24.
2. You must have choice. In the bible passage the savant have his choice of woman he want for Isaac “... Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water: And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto master ...” Genesis 24:13&14 Let woman I ask to give me water and she voluntarily give water to me camel be the why of my master and it was done when u read that passage further Isaac love the woman the moment he sees her they both loved each other. God want you to have happy home we will not force what you don’t like on you.
3. Have Time for courtship period. That is you must have time to move with each other, take time to study whom you want to marry know him or her very well. Don’t rush take it slowly if you know your spouse very well it helps marriage to last. And during this time if it is sombody you can’t cope with you can still go back. It is better to have broking relationship than have broking marriage.
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